Does Child Support Affect Child Custody or Access? Every family law professional, and every family court judge, will tell you that child custody and access are completely separate issues from child support. How child support is determined is completely different from how judges decide who gets custody. However, there are at least two ways in which child support can influence parenting issues in family court cases: Failing to pay appropriate child support immediately gives the impression that a parent does not care about the child. That can affect how a Family Court Judge or Family Arbitrator views that parent’s fitness as a parent. Shared Custody/Shared Parenting changes the way Child Support is Calculated. Sometimes people view shared custody as much as a financial arrangement as a parenting arrangement in the children’s best interests. However, things can work out differently than they expect. The Importance of Paying Child Support Right From Separation Child support is the right of the child. The right of children to share in their parents’ wealth exists from the moment of separation. It is a big mistake for a parent to withhold child support to the parent with whom the children primarily reside. It costs a lot of money to raise children. They have on-going needs. When one parent leaves the children with the other parent, that parent must recognize that the children’s needs continue. That means paying appropriate child support right from separation. You can use online tools to figure out your base child support obligation. When parents do not recognize that their children still have financial needs after separation, by immediately paying appropriate child support, Family Court Judges interpret that as a parent not caring about the children’s needs. Judges view parents who do not care, or understand, their children’s needs as poor parents – parents who cannot make good decisions for their kids, and therefore should not have custody. That leads Family Court Judges to believe that parents who do not immediately start paying appropriate child support as parents who should not have custody. That, of course, can be an incorrect assumption by the Family Court Judge. But a parent who starts off giving the Family Court a bad impression of him or her as a parent will have a much harder time in their case. That parent has barriers to overcome to get the parenting arrangements that he or she wants – barriers that he or she would not have had if she or he had shown devotion to the kids right from the start by paying child support. You can make sure you are doing the right things after separation by speaking to a top family law lawyer, and by watching the video below that sets out some of the other mistakes that you need to avoid:https://www.youtube.com/embed/bgIewOxGDlw?rel=0 Under section 9 of the Child Support Guidelines, child support changes when the children spend close to an equal amount of time with each parent. The magic number is 40%. When a child spends 40% of his or her time with a parent, that parent no longer has to pay the table amount of child support, but pays another amount that reflects a fair sharing of the costs of raising that child. The principles for how parents should financially support their children in shared parenting situations were set out by the Supreme Court of Canada in the case of Contino v. Leonelli-Contino. To summarize, when children share their time close to equally between parents, the starting point is that the parents each pay the table child support to the other. However, the way that works out, is that the parent with the higher income pays his or her table amount of child support minus the other parent’s child support obligation. For some parents, they want to have the children for forty percent or more of the time so that they can get a “break” in child support. Several family court judges are suspicious when a parent seeks to move to shared parenting because they want the break in child support. if the judge believes that a parent is more interested in the break in child support, than in the child’s best interests, that judge will not order shared parenting. If a parent wants shared parenting out of a since interest in being very involved in the children’s lives and protecting their interest, that parent may actually want to offer to pay full child support so that the judge has no doubt about that parent’s motives and feels safe ordering shared parenting. In addition, a parent who wants a shared parenting regime should watch the video below, which sets out when shared parenting, and other parenting arraignments, work best for the children, to make sure that the plan is best for the children and the judge will see that too:https://www.youtube.com/embed/i8y37J0ipzU There are some additional consideration regarding child support in shared parenting situation. First, in Contino, the Supreme Court said that the ‘set off” of child support was only the starting point. If that approach did not result in the parents sharing the costs of raising the children in proportion to their respective incomes, then the Family Court should make a different child support order that does. For example, a Family Court Judge will not order “set-off” or reduced child support, where one parent continues to bear the bulk of the cost for raising the children. Set-off only works where both parents are not only sharing parenting time, but also sharing the costs of raising the children. A second consideration regarding child support in shared parenting situations is that it does not always save money. Kids can be expensive. When the children are being raised in two homes instead of one, the children’s expenses are often not divided in two, but multiplied by two. Each child may need two beds, two sets of clothes, two TVs, two gaming systems, two bicycles, two sets of toys, and the list goes on. In shared parenting, a parent may find that child support goes down, but the extra expenses that parent pays are much more than the decrease in chid support. Many parents in shared parenting think it would be “cheaper” to have the children live with the other parent and just pay child support, but cannot do that because of how involved they are with their children. A third consideration is that in several shared parenting scenarios the support paying parent may pay more support than when the children have one primary residence. This is particularly true when one parent makes a lot more than the other. In that situation, the “set off” of support may not result in much of a decrease in child support. However, because to the adjustments to tax benefits and deductions, and other cash flow considerations, when the Spousal Support Advisory Guidelines are applied, the decrease in child support is more than made up fore by an increase in spousal support – and spousal support may not necessarily end when a child reaches 18 or finishes school as is the case for child support. It is important to have a good family lawyer do the support calculations for you to figure out the most prudent way to arrange support in light of your family’s circumstances. Child Support and Child Custody Are Still Separate Issues Despite the above, child support and child custody are not legally linked. So, except for the circumstances described above, parents should not try to link them. For example, a parent cannot deny access because the other parent is not paying child support. Similarly, a parent is not “entitled” to see the children just because he or she is paying child support. How much time a parent spends with the children and when is determined based on what is in the child’s best interests, not based on how much child support that parent is paying, And telling the children how much support you are paying is never a good idea. That is involving the children in adult issues, which can only be harmful (and judges do not let parents see children if it is going to cause harm.) Judges will not order that the wealthier parent get the children because he or she will be able to give the children a better lifestyle. Child support is supposed to permit children to share in the wealth of both their parents. Saying the other parent is “too poor” to raise the children properly is a pretty good way to anger a judge and lose your case. Finally, paying child support does not mean that a parent gets to dictate how the other parent raises the children, or even how the receiving parent uses the child support. Unless a court or arbitrator decides otherwise, what a parent does during his or her “parenting time” is not the business of the other parent. After separation, parents do not get to control how each other uses their money, including child support. If a parent is using child support money to buy drugs or alcohol, or gambling it away, then the support paying parent may have a case to say that the receiving parent is a bad parent because of addiction issues. But, that determination is based on each parent’s parenting ability and the best interests of the children – not on a consideration of child support. There are a lot of things to consider in each of child support and child custody. There are more things to consider, and things get more complicated, when the two issues interact. In addition, a lot can change depending on the specifics of your situation. In these situations, you really need to set up a consultation with a good family lawyer to learn your rights and obligations in your specific circumstances. Make an appointment to meet with Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, by calling 416-446-5847 or emailing him. We respond to all inquiries promptly. By Fauzan SiddiquiBlog, Family LawFebruary 19, 2015December 5, 2020
Legal advice needed about child custody John Schuman, Toronto Family Law lawyer at Devry Smith Frank LLP, was asked this question just recently: “My ex is trying to get custody of my six year old and I have been the sole support to my child her whole life. Her father has been in and out of the jail and is a drug addict. He claims that he changed but I am not buying it. He is abusive and I have police reports to prove it. I also have papers from children’s aid society saying that he is unfit parent. What should I do?” Based on what you said, it sounds like your ex has an uphill battle to get custody of your child. Judges have specific factors that they have to consider before making an order for custody of a child. Those factors help the judge decide what order is in the “child’s best interest.” You may also want to listen to this podcast that goes over not only how judges decide custody cases, but also what “custody” actually means. However, as the decision comes down to what is best for the child, it is difficult for people who are abusive, or have substance abuse problems, or have who have concerned a children’s aid society to get custody of a child. Access is a different matter. This is for two reasons. First, access can take many forms, occur in different places, can be supervised, or occur in a therapeutic setting, or for limited times. All of these considerations may make it possible for access to be “safe” for the child. Judges won’t order access if doing so may put the child at risk of harm. However, there are only very limited circumstances where the risk of harm cannot be addressed by supervised access. Second, from a psychological and developmental perspective, there is a great benefit to children in knowing who their parents are. Children form a sense of identity by knowing who their parents are – even if they form a sense of identity by deciding that they are not like their parents because they don’t like who their parents are. Children who don’t know their parents do less well psychological because a piece of their identity is missing. So, for the child’s sake, courts do like to try order some access. What children want, or what they think they want, is not determinative of anything in custody and access cases in family court. There can be difficulty where a parent wanders in and out of the child’s life on the parent’s whim. That can be a bad situation because the child does not get to really know the parent, but suffers a loss, or perhaps feels rejected every time the parent disappears. In those cases access may not be a good idea. A child psychologist or social worker may be able to help you and your ex sort out what is best for your child. However, that option is only possible if both parties agree on the professional and agree to participate in good faith to work for the benefit of the children. If the parents can do that, they can come up with much better solutions than a court may order because they can focus on the specifics of the child’s life and needs that a judge may not hear about if the parents do not present their cases carefully and effectively. Child custody cases can be very difficult and there can be a lot at stake for the children. For difficult parenting cases, it is extremely important to speak to a good family lawyer who knows how the law could apply to a specific situation and can help you explore all the options for dealing with the problems. You may also want to pick up a copy of this $20, easy-to-understand book on Ontario Family Law. It explains custody-access law, how judges make custody and access decisions, the court process and other options for working out parenting matters – there are a lot of better options for working out parenting conflicts that result in tailor made solutions that benefit the children more than a court imposed custody order, but court may be necessary in some cases. For more information regarding child custody, access or any other family law related topic, please contact Toronto family lawyer John Schuman at 416-446-5080 By Fauzan SiddiquiBlog, Family LawJuly 9, 2014December 3, 2020
Very distressed child asked for advice in upcoming child custody case My friend’s child asked for advice on a upcoming child custody case. His parents are in family court and have trial in 2 months on child custody and access. He has a children’s lawyer, but afraid to tell her what he wants as he doesn’t want this information to be shared with parents – he is very afraid of their reaction. The lawyer does not keep things in private as promised. The child is in a much distress and wants to talk to a judge, but OCL is against it. The child is turning 13 in few months. I don’t know how to help him, I am very concerned about his state of mind. He is vey stressed and turns it against himself by having a very low view of his worth and his life worth. His OCL unfortunately does not see it and is convinced the child is OK. What would you advise to this child and is there any way I can help? If I talk to his parents he will loose trust in me as well. This is an upsetting situation. However, the perspective on hearing from children is changing in Ontario Family Law. Many judges recognize children have a right to be heard in matters that affect them, provided it is the child who wants to be heard and not a parent trying to get the child to take sides. Technically, a child does not have to be represented by the Office of the Children’s Lawyer. A child can retain a private lawyer to assist him or her. Judges views this with some scepticism unless it is clear the child was not “put up to it” by a parent. This means the child has to contact the lawyer himself, see the lawyer without a parent present and negotiate the retainer for that lawyer. That lawyer can than advice the court and the OCL that he or she is representing the child and the OCL is no longer doing so. The court (and the OCL) will likely want to explore the situation to ensure this was not a parent influencing the child. At some point, the child may have to say that he lost confidence in the OCL lawyer. That may take some fortitude, but so will putting a position before the court on his parent’s divorce. However, a child who does all of that to ensure he is heard by the court, will convince most judges to at least listen. It sounds like you are being “neutral” in this situation, so it would likely be OK for you to assist the child in finding a lawyer. Also, it is important to remember that a child expressing a point of view is NOT determinative of any issue. Even if a judge listens, the child will only be a witness, not the decision-maker. After listening, the judge may make a decision that is different from what the child wanted. However, often just knowing that the judge has heard his point of view is enough to get a child “on board” for any decision. If you want to know the technicalities of the law in relation to courts listening to children, you can see if your local reference library or law library (often in the courthouse) has a copy of Wilson on Children and the Law. There is a long chapter on this issue. The book itself is several hundred dollars to purchase. So, you will need to find a good library to get a copy. There is more about children in the family court process, how to navigate family court, and many other family law issues in this $20 easy-to-understand book on Family Law: Devry Basics Ontario Family Edition. For further information or assistance in regards to child custody, child access or family law, please contact Toronto family lawyer John Schuman. By Fauzan SiddiquiBlog, Family LawApril 8, 2013December 3, 2020